When heading for the altar in a hormonal haze no one is prudent

16.

When heading for the altar in a hormonal haze no one is prudent. However, the everyday trivial life make vivid all the spouse’s flaws, so it is often disappointing. Marriage is fragile, so not many are ready to work hard at saving it. Moreover, to err is human, so sometimes if the marriage does not work out, the best solution is to opt out of it.

Reasons for divorce: Needless to say, that even a small trifle might ruin a very solid marriage. Human relationships is to some extent a mystery for me. Luckily, I believe I am not alone in such ignorance. The only thing I know for sure is that every relationship that is wanted to be long lasting requires a lot of effort to be maintained in proper condition. Therefore, I think both of spouses if they have a wish to linger in love and respect each other must work at their marriage a lot. Among the most widespread divorce reasons a Lack of commitment to the marriage\ Lack of communication between spouses which I suppose are rather similar things  is mentioned. It is trivial, but putting some effort for the sake of marriage is needed just to make it work. In fact, it must become a daily routine.

So as marriage is a magnificent virtue, it requires really a lot.

However, there are several more discouraging divorce reasons. One of them is various kind of abuse. No matter whether it is a physical or an emotional one, I guess if such a thing takes place, there is the only way out – to abandon the family. Unfortunately, it is closely linked with different kinds of addictions people are susceptible to. Therefore, it is quite relevant in particular for this country.

In addition, another popular divorce reason is adultery or infidelity.

Sometimes two people just are blinded falling in love, but then as it subsides, there is nothing between them and they drift apart. There are many variations of this problem. Therefore, marriages without a concrete reason take place. It is noting, but an evidence that both the wife and the husband were not prudent and responsible enough. However, to err is human.

Tendencies: In the previous centuries, divorce was banned by the church. To get divorced people had to ask for the Pope’s admission. Therefore, such an occasion was extremely rare. As you know, the very appearance of the Anglican Church was rooted with this problem. When Henry VIII wanted to get divorced, he just decided to found a brand new branch of religion.

Many things has changed since then. At present, it is never shocking when a couple makes a decision to split up. At last, more than half of all marriages break down after a while.

How to get divorced in a civilized way: So when one of the reason for divorce mentioned above become unbearable, there is a need in getting divorced in a civilized way. So Prenuptial agreement is the key to making it right. However, few of us a reasonable enough for creating a marriage contract. Moreover, a desire to sign up such a document is a bad sign that demonstrates that a person is not sure about getting married. So stay human for the children’s sake. Stay calm, avoid squabbles. When one needs to get out of the marriage, there is no sense in trying to save the marriage; it is already broken. The expectations about staying friends after the divorce have nothing to deal with the reality, but it is easier for one to believe in it, let be. After all the best idea is to make sure the divorce is not about to escalate in leading court trials. Divorce is not a joy-inducing procedure, suing an ex is a bit too much as for me.

Outro: The instution of marriage has often become neglected. The overwhelming amount of divorces makes me think that getting married is not an important decision for people anymore. I guess people suppose they do not risk anything when getting married. However, in the reality apart from some waste of nerves, children are left in misery, which significantly damages them. Therefore, Marriage is a serious step that should be made only assuming all the responsibility.