Having an ideal spouse is seeing the good, not seeing the bad. Everything is relative

17. Having an ideal spouse is seeing the good, not seeing the bad. Everything is relative.

on the whole people have always conceded a need in marriage. There’s a dozen of reasons why two people become a couple.

Is marriage necessary? Why? Starting from the most trivial, it’s easier to run a household together sharing all the necesseties according to the abilities. But not only comfort matters for human beings. People have always got married Either for money, love – which of it has depended on a person’s values. So there’s a massively advantageous side of marriage. Marriyng for love a person might find\ finds some vital support for the rest of the life. Money’s support is always limited by its amount. A marriage for convenience is unlikely to turn into a happy union after a while. The divorce rate which is about 54% bares witness to this fact. Apart from the care given and taken, which is no doubt great, it’s also the ability ti rear children. So on the whole, as the life consists of ups and down, going thru them together is easier)

Prove there is (no) ideal spouse. (Before becoming a wife and a husband, a couple experiences going out. Its purpose is basically defining if this very person is suitable to make up a conjugal union with. Heading for the altar in a hormonal haze it might seem one’s spouse is a perfect one, but this thought is never confirmed by everyday trivial life. I believe there are no saint people which embodies there is no ideal spouse. Even though everyone has a separate image of a perfect spouse, yet I’m concerned none of them can ever be fulfilled. At least until I don’t happen to be persuaded in the opposite. So pretty difficult to speculate on it.

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Depict an ideal spouse (Even though there’s no ideal spouse, it can exist. It’s not nonsense just because everything is relative. In human relationships our image of people doesn’t particularly depend on the way those people really are. This happens for the reason called love. It’s never rational, and that makes me think there’re plenty of ideal spouses on earth. Even the worst people ever born – barbaric tyrants who demolished millions of people were beloved. So having an ideal spouse involves seeing the good and ignoring the bad.

What concerns me in particular, I do not have any illusions about people being perfect. So I’d consider depicting an ideal spouse as the issue how to make the attachment to a person last as long as possible. Once you fell in love with somebody, this somebody, I’m convinced, seems to you rather perfect. Of course this feeling fades away as the time marches. So the matter is how to extend it? Everything that needs to be done is situated in our heads, so it’s the matter of perception. Anyhow, the examples of other people show, that love always subsides after a while. And the respect comes instead. Sill I don’t have any ultimate solution. )

Anyhow, I’d be very happy to realize one day that I was mistake in this topic. If finding an ideal spouse is possiblem then it’s one of the greatest treasures one can obtain.